Female President Trump and "Liberals" vs. "Conservatives..." aka... fuck, my head hurts...

I have a couple things on my mind today for my blog therapy session. First, imagine if we had a female president who acted as Trump does. And second, how the terms “liberal” and “conservative” aren’t quite right for our time and what we should say instead. And we’re off, so we might as well get going (anybody else religiously read the Green Bay Packers Insiders Inbox every day?).

Female President Trump

I’VE TALKED ABOUT THIS BEFORE but it never ceases to piss me off. The way we treat women as opposed to men in politics (and, you know, like we also do with women’s health, women in the workforce, in sports, in the music, film and TV industry, and every other aspect in life) is fucking insane, pardon my French. Wait, fuck that. Don’t pardon it at all because it’s goddamned justified. Way back in the Democratic primaries (which were like, what, 400 fucking years ago), we had multiple women running. Elizabeth Warren, who was my preference for the Democratic ticket, was deemed too unlikable, too angry and too much like Hillary was in ‘16. Kamala was said to be argumentative, overly ambitious and not Black enough. Klobuchar was too mean to her employees. But would you say any of these women are more unlikable, angry, argumentative, overly ambitious or meaner to their employees than our current President? Of course you wouldn’t. In fact, the Donald is the epitome of every one of those descriptors.

I specifically remember being angry about Warren being forced to lay out an elaborate plan on how she would fund Medicare for All, which she did. It laid out where those dollars were going to come from, be it higher taxes on the rich, closing other tax loopholes for corporations, diverting dollars from other programs, etc. She had to have plans for all of her progressive ideas. But, guess who didn’t? Bernie Sanders. He was free to spout anything he wanted about free healthcare and free college and on and on without ever justifying a single dime to pay for it. His hazy plan was to maybe raise taxes on the rich. Well, how and how much? No answer. He even said with the government running the healthcare system it would pay for itself over time because of reduced administrative costs. Sure, the government has proven time and time again it can run services and be more fiscally efficient than their private sector competitors. Oh wait, they already run a healthcare service and the VA is a disaster. But, my broader point is the same ol’ thing we’ve been saying for ages: that a woman must be twice as good as a man to earn the same job.

But, back to the main thesis, I cannot even imagine if we had a woman running our country like Trump does. We would never hear the end of “that’s why we can’t let a woman run our country” and “women are too irrational and emotional to be leaders” and “women are too susceptible to compliments” and “that’s why we can’t give the nuclear codes to a woman” and “women are so vain and care too much about their hair” and on and on. We would likely never have a woman President ever again.

So, I would like to start the call. I say we never trust another rich, old, white man to run our country. In fact, I’m not sure I trust them in the House, Senate or as judges. The Green Bay Packers, well known as being one of the best run sports franchises in the world, have a rule that no one over the age of 70 can be employed in decision-making positions of power. I say we adopt that rule for Congress, Judges and the President of the United States as well. Our country is overwhelmingly progressive on most fiscal and social issues and yet our representation by and large does not reflect that. Speaking of “progressives…”

Liberal vs. Conservative or Progressive vs. Regressive

First off, don’t even get me started on how fucked up and fundamentally racist the construction of the Senate and the Electoral College are. Both were concessions to slave owners in the South who feared the more densely populated North would take over our country’s decision making if all things were equal. Even now, they both heavily favor white, rural areas despite the fact that nearly 5 times more people live in urban ares where populations tend to be more diverse and progressive (though not all urban areas fit that description. Looking at you Portland and Seattle. You may be progressive but you’re certainly not diverse…). The mere fact that North Dakota (population 762,000), South Dakota (population 885,000), Wyoming (population 579,000) and Montana (population 1.1 million) carry the same weight in the Senate as New York (population 19.5 million), Illinois (population 12.9 million) and California (population 39.5 million) is fucking insane. And because of those misplaced Senators, those same rural areas have an outsized say in the Electoral College. Again, these were concessions made to slave owners in the South back in 1787. I doubt they thought we wouldn’t have figured out a more equitable system by now. That’s why they allowed for amendments.

So, why don’t we change these systems now? Our country says it’s progressive so what is holding us back? Well, it’s those darn “conservatives.” Those same “conservatives” that are vastly overrepresented in the Senate. Those same “conservatives” that are pushing to remove rights and protections from women, people of color and the LGBTQ+ community (don’t worry, Native Americans had their rights taken away many, many years ago. You know, like the right to be alive…). Those same “conservatives” who are actively trying to take away healthcare from millions during a pandemic and are standing in the way of universal health care, a basic right for every citizen in every other first world country and, in general, most other countries in the world. Those same “conservatives” who are currently standing in the way of enhanced unemployment benefits for millions of people, like me, who are still unemployed because their “conservative” leader refused to be brave enough to actually lead our country through a national crisis. Those same “conservatives” who are standing firmly in the way of criminal justice and policing reform because they think we need more law and order. Those same “conservatives” who are still pretending there is no racism in this country and that “all lives matter.”

Wait, none of those things sound “conservative.” If the goal is to begin slowing down progress and stripping away the rights of people, that’s no longer “conservative,” that’s “regressive.” Let’s take a look at the definitions of “liberal” and “conservative,” shall we?

The definition of the word “liberal” is:

willing to respect or accept behavior or opinions different from one's own; open to new ideas.

The definition of the word “conservative” is:

averse to change or innovation and holding traditional values.

So, the key is change. One side is pro-change and one side is against it. In an ideal world, everyone would be liberal. Everyone would be able to “respect or accept behavior or opinions different from one’s own” but right now what we have is two sides that are completely unable to do that. What we have are two sides that moving in opposite directions and becoming far less “liberal.” What we have is one side that is pushing for progress and one that is pushing us to regress. I am very much a progressive but I don’t think I can call myself a “liberal.” I can no longer respect or accept that one side wants to take away rights from women and the LGBTQ+ community or provide basic social services to its citizens or make any progress on defeating the racism in this country (or even recognize there is a problem to begin with) or helping close the widening wealth gap. None of us should. Those things are essential to the growth of this nation; our progress, if you will. Going backwards is obviously not helping anything. Our country has never been more divided and rightfully so. We’ve always called ourselves a progressive nation who promotes democracy and human rights across the globe but a portion of our citizens and representatives are actively trying take away our civil liberties and individual rights here at home, even trying to restrict its own citizens inalienable right to participate in our democracy. That’s just unacceptable. And it’s not “conservative” at all.

We’re at a tipping point in the history of our great country. We have to decide if we want to continue to push forward to try to be a truly “progressive” nation, or if we want to be “regressive” and trample on all the things that America wanted to be in the first place. No, I’m not saying we used to be better. In fact, it used to be much worse, but we still have a chance to push towards the ideals that founded this nation. We’ve always said that we were trying to be a better, more perfect union, let’s actually follow through on that and stop trying to live in the past. A past most of us would rather learn from and grow beyond. We’re better than this. Let’s prove it.

Mad at Kanye because Kanye is smarter than you? a.k.a. Kanye's White House Monologue

If you haven't seen the full video from Kanye's monologue during his Oval Office visit with Donald Trump, here you go:

Rapper Kanye West met Thursday with Donald Trump, telling the President in an Oval Office meeting before reporters why he supports the Republican. Language warning: This clip contains some profanity. #KanyeWest #CNN #News

I know how news is disseminated these days, in clips and soundbites, but it's important to ingest some things fully and without commentary or bias.  I've seen or heard so many "takes" already claiming Kanye's monologue was sad, was rambling, was incoherent, was profane, that Kanye doesn't represent how black people feel, and on and on.  Look, some of that may be true.  Kanye did touch on a lot of topics (I'll highlight some later, but again, watch the whole video before offering another unneeded take, like this one, into the world), he did drop a couple curse words and he sometimes switched lines of thought before finalizing his point.  But, he also never claimed to speak on behalf of all black people, made plenty of well-thought out points and once again proved he is always the smartest person in the room.  That's a softball setup for a Trump joke but that's not what this is about.


WHO DIDN'T SEE THIS COMING?  WELL, ME, I GUESS...


For anyone surprised by Kanye's monologue, I feel like taking them aside and just playing them the scene from Goodfellas, where Joe Pesci shoots Spider for talking back to him, over and over til Robert Deniro's "What's the matter with you? Huh?  What's the matter with you?" is seared into their skulls forever.

 

Of course this was outcome when probably the bravest, most outspoken artist in the world had a national audience and was sitting in THE F*%#ING WHITE HOUSE.  This could not have been teed up any better than my left-open Trump joke a few sentences ago.  Of course Kanye was going to seize the moment.  He clearly has a lot on his mind, and from the sounds of it, has ACTUALLY BEEN DOING SOMETHING ABOUT SOCIAL AND LOCAL ISSUES.


He mentions having meetings back in Chicago about gun violence, prison reform and school curriculums.  He's at the White House to discuss prison reform and to try sway the President's mind about "stop and frisk."  He's not just posting Twitter messages or videos about how outraged he is, he's talking with people and trying to get something done about it.  In fact, he's not outraged at all.  Multiple times he uses the words "empower" and "love."


He implores people to talk with people instead of making hasty decisions or judgements, explaining how he was misdiagnosed with Bipolar disorder when he was really just massively sleep-deprived and how that could have led to him developing dementia.

 

He reiterated the need for more mental health awareness and help for everyone, especially those who need to be "habilitated, not rehabilitated" since they never got the knowledge or help they needed to begin with.


It was clear these were not ideas that randomly popped into his head that he word-vomited out to the world.  These are things he is clearly passionate about and thinks about often and with great depth.  They may sound crazy grabbed as a snippet, but I understood each point he made and agreed with him more often than not.  For instance, it's true I don't really think a hydrogen-powered plane will replace Air Force One anytime soon, but I understand his overall point about wanting American companies to be leaders in industry and in designing innovative products.


I figured Kanye would give us a performance and I was not disappointed.  But, what I did not expect was for us to get a peek into the brain of genius.  Kanye is not just a "musical genius."  He is a plain, old, regular genius too. He said as much during the monologue and I believe him.  Listening to the way his thoughts formulated and how he articulated them, you can tell he's working on a different level than most of us and there was so much going on in his head he was trying to igure out how to get it all out.  It's sad that this is often lazily labeled "crazy."  Geniuses have been called "crazy" for as long as man has existed and consistently misunderstood them.  Of course some of his thoughts seem incomplete.  I'm sure he could talk for hours and hours (probably days and days) on each of the dozen or so topics he touched on but he knew people will only pay attention for so long so he kept it moving.  No one knows how to entertain better than Kanye but I don't think this was him posturing or just seeking attention.  I believe him.  I believe he truly believes in all these things.


A FEW THOUGHTS ON A FEW OF THE TOPICS HE BROUGHT UP


WELFARE:


Kanye mentions that welfare is a big reason why black people are typically Democrats.  He also points out that because jobs are hard to find, it can often be easier for people to have more kids to increase their income, which can cause its own set of issues.  Kanye mentions creating jobs, multiple times, as the first step to helping curb these issues.  

 

But, to his point about having more kids to gain income, he's right.  I've had more than a couple friends admit to me they had an extra kid to help with rent, or to move into a bigger or nicer apartment, or to help with a medical bill.  I remember asking my co-worker in New York City how she could afford a three-bedroom apartment in Manhattan.  The answer:  three kids and custody of a fourth.


WHY HE WEARS HIS MAGA HAT:


Kanye states that the hat gives him power.  And, it does.  He talks about the how people try to bully him out of wearing the hat, which he refuses to do; which, in itself, is empowering.  He talks about how it gave him "the balls" to negotiate a better deal with Adidas.  He talks about how wearing the hat reminds him that Trump is a positive male role-model for a guy without a lot positive male energy in his life.  That sounds pretty powerful to me.  I think he may be right.


MENTAL HEALTH:


I don't understand why, but it seems like people hate it when Kanye brings up mental health.  This makes no sense.  Everyone lauds Kendrick Lamar for discussing it but collectively roll their eyes when Kanye brings it up.  I don't like it and it's hypocritical.  If you don't like him, you don't like him.  Fine.  But, the more we can get people talking and learning about mental health, the better.  I didn't find out until I was 28 years old that I had Asperger's.  Having that news earlier could have changed a lot things (mostly relationships) in my life.  As Kanye says today, people need more access to and education around mental health.

 

He made a great point about "habilitation, not rehabilitation" when it comes to prisoners.  People who come out of prison typically don't come out with lots of money and opportunities coming at them left and right from potential employers.  I've never been to prison but I can't imagine it's positive for a person's psyche.  So, now you have someone who has had a traumatic event (and possibly many more beforehand) occur to them who have no money and little-to-no job prospects due a prison record.  It doesn't really put people in a position to succeed which, he says, puts people in a position to do illegal things and, ultimately, end up back in prison.  

 

Instead, Kanye recommends mental health care, job training and even different curriculums in schools to try and keep kids out of prison to begin with.  That all seems sensible enough to me.


IN SUMMATION


I think people often struggle with Kanye due to lack of understanding.  Perhaps it's because I have Asperger's (who knows?), but I often seem to relate to Kanye and understand his trains of thought better than most.  I find myself constantly explaining, and sometimes defending, him to others.  Ofttimes, they will concede they perhaps judged him too quickly and too harshly.  Other times, they say my explanation makes it worse. Who knows...  But, I just wanted to offer (yet another...) opinion to hopefully get you feeling more open and loving towards someone who is often misunderstood.  That's all Kanye is asking for; and he's right, as usual...